Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach
Jordan Peterson Got This One Wrong: Crazy Women and MGTOW
Jordan Peterson hits the nail on the head most of the time. But when it comes to MGTOW, “crazy women” and the power that men have in the world of relationships, he got it dead wrong.
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I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men.
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I like Jordan Peterson. I do. He says a lot of smart things, and his words have given a lot of my clients strength and inspiration.
But recently I watched one of his videos about MGTOW. If you aren't familiar with that acronym, it stands for "Men Going Their Own Way" and refers to a group that's based around the premise that the world is stacked against men due to toxic feminism.
Now... I can agree with that premise to a large extent (though I have some thoughts about how MGTOW members deal with it, but I'll save that for another video).
You don't need to know much about MGTOW to see that Jordan Peterson missed the mark on this one. (If you wanna see the video, you can watch it here: https://youtu.be/3gClBIgG3ig )
In the video Jordan Peterson describes how he believes that the courts and legal systems are stacked against men, and further that men lack the tools to fight back. He describes how his wife told him that “men will need to stand up for themselves” but that he disagrees.
In Jordan Peterson's opinion, the tools that men have to fight back can’t be used against women and their supporters.
For Jordan Peterson and many followers of MGTOW this means that men are, and I quote, “defenseless against that kind of female insanity” and that "sane women" need to stand up to their “crazy sisters” and put an end to the man-hating, pathologizing narrative. In his opinion, men can’t do much of anything.
I have to say I’m disappointed in Jordan Peterson here.
He’s making the same mistake that many men in MGTOW do: when falsely accused of being the villain, he turns the accuser into the villain and himself into the helpless victim.
I'm not the bad guy, YOU are!
That narrative, though it may be emotionally satisfying at first, leaves men in a pretty shitty place, powerless to impact their own futures and helpless to communicate in relationships if the women is upset with them.
The reality is that we don’t live in a world of victims and villains.
The women he’s calling insane are no more crazy than the men they hate are actually narcissists.
Yes, MGTOW is right that the world is unfair, our legal systems are majorly flawed and many men are unjustly discriminated against in divorce cases.
But giving into the "good vs. evil", "victim vs. villain" game doesn't solve those problems. It simply perpetuates the divide, the conflict and the us vs. them mentality that has infected our society on so many levels.
More importantly, it sucks to be a victim, almost as much as it sucks to feel like a villain! Victims are weak, powerless to improve their own lives. They rely on others to change instead, a recipe for depression, despair and isolation. Do you really want to live that story line any more than you want to live the villain one?
Jordan Peterson forgot that there is always a third option, and he made the all too human mistake of getting caught up in the illusion that real life is actually as black and white as a super hero flick.
I hope you don't make the same mistake.