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Child Custody for Fathers: A Powerful New Approach to Divorce with Kids
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

Child Custody for Fathers: A Powerful New Approach to Divorce with Kids

Garry Junkuhn shares a surprising new perspective on navigating child custody for fathers, and it's effective... even in situations where your ex is mad at you or trying to keep you from seeing your children. Divorce with kids is never simple or easy, but if you start practicing some of Garry's methods, your relationship with your kids could come out stronger. Learn more about 100K Fathers or Work with Garry https://100kfathers.com/ Find Garry on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr3YEZhTor5Yjq1EcQA4E6g --------------------------------------------------------------------- 0:00:35 - Welcome Statement 0:01:40 - Mistakes Men Make in Child Custody 0:04:15 - How to Understand the Relationship between the Mother and the Child 0:07:45 - Father’s Custody Battles and Struggles to see their Child 0:11:27 - Garry Junkuhn’s Personal Experience 0:13:31 - What Father's Can Do 0:18:02 - Process, Steps and Best Paths Forward 0:23:05 - Letting go of Fear in Court 0:27:28 - Effect of Divorce on Children 0:37:11 - Shifting Focus and Looking for Opportunity 0:43:13 - Taking Care of Yourself 0:45:40 - Four Core Pillars of Life 0:50:25 - Specific Tools to take Ownership of Your Life 0:52:13 - Ways to Connect with Garry Junkuhn -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Contact Rachael or Book a Consultation https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/contact-8 You may also email me to discuss coaching: rachael@rachaelsloancoaching.com ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.
Essential Mindset Shift to Fix Communication in Relationships #shorts
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

Essential Mindset Shift to Fix Communication in Relationships #shorts

Communications in relationships is the biggest place people fail when it comes to being a good partner. And this is the center of most relationship problems. You've got two people who are trying to communicate with one another, and neither one is seeing or understanding the other person. And so when I come into the situation as a coach, what I try to help my clients understand is that if you want the other person to be able to see and understand you, you first have to give them that gift. And that makes people upset because why am I the one why am I the one who always has to do all the work? Why am I the one who has to make her feel comfortable so that she can see and understand me? And the answer is you don't have to. It's your choice. You can choose to stay where you are, insisting that she see and understand you and ignoring the fact that her nervous system is all charged up. Or you can recognize that her nervous system is activated and yours is also. And stop treating this like a rational discussion or an argument that you could win through logic and start instead dealing with yourself and with her as the emotional activated animals that you are. Book a Consultation Call with Me: https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/contact-8 Or email me to schedule a time: rachael@rachaelsloancoaching.com ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment. LICENSE CERTIFICATE: Envato Elements Item ================================================= This license certificate documents a license to use the item listed below on a non-exclusive, commercial, worldwide and revokable basis, for one Single Use for this Registered Project. Item Title: Motivational Orchestral Adventure Item URL: https://elements.envato.com/motivational-orchestral-adventure-7GC32Q9 Item ID: 7GC32Q9 Author Username: musicdream Licensee: Jordan Ingram Registered Project Name: coaching License Date: February 26th, 2022 Item License Code: 52NJ9TLHFG The license you hold for this item is only valid if you complete your End Product while your subscription is active. Then the license continues for the life of the End Product (even if your subscription ends). For any queries related to this document or license please contact Envato Support via https://help.elements.envato.com/hc/en-us/requests/new Envato Elements Pty Ltd (ABN 87 613 824 258) PO Box 16122, Collins St West, VIC 8007, Australia ==== THIS IS NOT A TAX RECEIPT OR INVOICE ====
Remarrying After Divorce for Men: Dealing with Pressure from Women
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

Remarrying After Divorce for Men: Dealing with Pressure from Women

You're with a partner you really like, but you have zero interest in remarrying after divorce... you don't want to put yourself in that position again. But what if marriage is really important to your partner, or she doesn't listen to or seem to understand why you don't want to remarry? This video will help you navigate these difficult conversations so that you can enjoy your life after divorce and have meaningful relationships and deep intimacy, even if you choose not to remarry. Book a Consultation Call with Me: https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/contact-8 Or email me to schedule a time: rachael@rachaelsloancoaching.com ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment. A viewer and I were recently chatting about his life after divorce, and he asked me to make a video about why women feel so strongly about marriage. In this case, his partner of 2 years is pressuring him to get married, but he’s just recovered from a particularly nasty divorce. She wants him to remarry… he has absolutely no intention of doing so and the issue is driving them apart. This raises some questions. Should you remarry after divorce? Is it safer to be in a partnership that isn’t legally binding? Life after divorce for many men involves picking up the pieces financially and personally after going through a big legal battle. Many men feel taken advantage of, especially when the divorce itself was something they didn’t want. And yet, if you find a new partner, and she wants to be married, what can you do? In this video I discuss the underlying cause of why many women push for marriage, and also shine some light on why, specifically, men can be hesitant to remarry after divorce. I also share some communication skills to make these kinds of difficult conversations easier. LICENSE CERTIFICATE: Envato Elements Item ================================================= This license certificate documents a license to use the item listed below on a non-exclusive, commercial, worldwide and revokable basis, for one Single Use for this Registered Project. Item Title: Motivational Orchestral Adventure Item URL: https://elements.envato.com/motivational-orchestral-adventure-7GC32Q9 Item ID: 7GC32Q9 Author Username: musicdream Licensee: Jordan Ingram Registered Project Name: coaching License Date: February 26th, 2022 Item License Code: 52NJ9TLHFG The license you hold for this item is only valid if you complete your End Product while your subscription is active. Then the license continues for the life of the End Product (even if your subscription ends). For any queries related to this document or license please contact Envato Support via https://help.elements.envato.com/hc/en-us/requests/new Envato Elements Pty Ltd (ABN 87 613 824 258) PO Box 16122, Collins St West, VIC 8007, Australia ==== THIS IS NOT A TAX RECEIPT OR INVOICE ====
Getting Help but Still STUCK? Here's the Problem with ACIM, LOA & Most Coaching Programs for Men
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

Getting Help but Still STUCK? Here's the Problem with ACIM, LOA & Most Coaching Programs for Men

There's one big problem with most coaching programs for men as well as ACIM, LOA and other approaches to divorce recovery many men turn to for help. A Course in Miracles and Law of Attraction work have a lot to offer. Many men-centric coaching programs do too... but they tend to skimp on one important feature. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Book a Consultation Call with Me: https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/contact-8 Or email me to schedule a time: rachael@rachaelsloancoaching.com ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment. Don't get me wrong, I really like A Course in Miracles, or ACIM. At first it was a bit too religious-ey for me, I'll admit that, but underneath the religious language is some truly powerful work. The same is true with Law of Attraction, or LOA. No, I'm not really into the "woo woo" stuff, and I don't think you can just dream your way into love or riches. But I do know that the way you think has a deep impact on the way you feel which has a strong effect on how you act. And your actions are what ultimately drive the experiences you have and the opportunities that are possible for you. So ACIM and LOA have good stuff to offer. So do the many coaching programs out there for men. But they all miss one big thing - by always focusing on the positive, they reinforce the feeling many men have that there is something wrong with them. When you only focus on what is "good" and encourage folks to ignore or deny their own doubting voices, it tends to make them believe that there is something wrong with them or with their inner voices. And it doesn't work. If someone is strongly identifying with a negative inner voice, with a feeling of fear or loss, no amount of positive cheerleading is going to silence that voice. That's why a lot of people engage openly in this kind of work, in coaching programs for men, or in LOA or ACIM and still stay STUCK. LICENSE CERTIFICATE: Envato Elements Item ================================================= This license certificate documents a license to use the item listed below on a non-exclusive, commercial, worldwide and revokable basis, for one Single Use for this Registered Project. Item Title: Motivational Orchestral Adventure Item URL: https://elements.envato.com/motivational-orchestral-adventure-7GC32Q9 Item ID: 7GC32Q9 Author Username: musicdream Licensee: Jordan Ingram Registered Project Name: coaching License Date: February 26th, 2022 Item License Code: 52NJ9TLHFG The license you hold for this item is only valid if you complete your End Product while your subscription is active. Then the license continues for the life of the End Product (even if your subscription ends). For any queries related to this document or license please contact Envato Support via https://help.elements.envato.com/hc/en-us/requests/new Envato Elements Pty Ltd (ABN 87 613 824 258) PO Box 16122, Collins St West, VIC 8007, Australia ==== THIS IS NOT A TAX RECEIPT OR INVOICE ====
Why Marriages Fail: Toxic Positivity & Emotional Suppression
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

Why Marriages Fail: Toxic Positivity & Emotional Suppression

Did her toxic positivity drive you into emotional suppression? Men’s divorce experiences are often characterized by accusations such as, “You lack emotional intelligence” or “you’re always so angry or negative”. Ironically, these accusations are often made in anger by their partners. In this video we explore the idea of “toxic” positivity and how an insistent focus on what’s good within a marriage can actually contribute to emotional suppression, poor communication and ultimately divorce. Make sure you stick around to the end, because I also share a simple but powerful way to recover from emotional suppression as you work to move on from your divorce. IS BETTER BEYOND DIVORCE THE ANSWER YOU'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR? Weekly personal coaching, detailed exercises and explanations and daily support to help you get healthy, get happy and move on from your divorce with confidence. Book a free Consultation Call: https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/contact-8 Or email me to schedule a time: rachael@rachaelsloancoaching.com ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique men's divorce recovery program based specifically on the your needs. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment. Men's divorce experience is often deeply colored by their partner's accusations, which often focus on the man's emotional suppression. Common complaints include: - You're not emotionally available. - You get angry too easily. - You yell/swear too much. - You're not passionate enough. - You don't make me feel loved. On the one hand men are expected to not express anger or frustration (or grief), while on the other they are expected to demonstrate passionate love and romance. Often the origins of this emotional double standard lie in "toxic" positivity. I'm not a big fan of labeling anything as toxic, but this is the language my clients are using and I think it's an important topic to discuss. Toxic positivity is a focus on the positive that goes too far. There isn't room for any "negative" emotion or thought. What happens is your partner starts getting upset with you every time you express a non positive thought or feeling. In her desperation to embrace positivity she focuses almost exclusively on your negativity. Having worked with both men and women and explored these phenomena with a number of colleagues, I don't blame the women anymore than I blame the men. We are all operating under a set of societal expectations until we pause and really examine those beliefs and how they show up in our lives. The beauty that I do see is that we can each make that choice and do that work for ourselves, even if our loved ones choose not too. LICENSE CERTIFICATE: Envato Elements Item ================================================= This license certificate documents a license to use the item listed below on a non-exclusive, commercial, worldwide and revokable basis, for one Single Use for this Registered Project. Item Title: Motivational Orchestral Adventure Item URL: https://elements.envato.com/motivational-orchestral-adventure-7GC32Q9 Item ID: 7GC32Q9 Author Username: musicdream Licensee: Jordan Ingram Registered Project Name: coaching License Date: February 26th, 2022 Item License Code: 52NJ9TLHFG The license you hold for this item is only valid if you complete your End Product while your subscription is active. Then the license continues for the life of the End Product (even if your subscription ends). For any queries related to this document or license please contact Envato Support via https://help.elements.envato.com/hc/en-us/requests/new Envato Elements Pty Ltd (ABN 87 613 824 258) PO Box 16122, Collins St West, VIC 8007, Australia ==== THIS IS NOT A TAX RECEIPT OR INVOICE ====
Jordan Peterson Got This One Wrong: Crazy Women and MGTOW
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

Jordan Peterson Got This One Wrong: Crazy Women and MGTOW

Jordan Peterson hits the nail on the head most of the time. But when it comes to MGTOW, “crazy women” and the power that men have in the world of relationships, he got it dead wrong. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- INTERESTED IN COACHING? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH ME 👉 https://calendly.com/rachaelsloan/str... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment. I like Jordan Peterson. I do. He says a lot of smart things, and his words have given a lot of my clients strength and inspiration. But recently I watched one of his videos about MGTOW. If you aren't familiar with that acronym, it stands for "Men Going Their Own Way" and refers to a group that's based around the premise that the world is stacked against men due to toxic feminism. ​ Now... I can agree with that premise to a large extent (though I have some thoughts about how MGTOW members deal with it, but I'll save that for another video). You don't need to know much about MGTOW to see that Jordan Peterson missed the mark on this one. (If you wanna see the video, you can watch it here: https://youtu.be/3gClBIgG3ig ) In the video Jordan Peterson describes how he believes that the courts and legal systems are stacked against men, and further that men lack the tools to fight back. He describes how his wife told him that “men will need to stand up for themselves” but that he disagrees. In Jordan Peterson's opinion, the tools that men have to fight back can’t be used against women and their supporters. For Jordan Peterson and many followers of MGTOW this means that men are, and I quote, “defenseless against that kind of female insanity” and that "sane women" need to stand up to their “crazy sisters” and put an end to the man-hating, pathologizing narrative. In his opinion, men can’t do much of anything. I have to say I’m disappointed in Jordan Peterson here. He’s making the same mistake that many men in MGTOW do: when falsely accused of being the villain, he turns the accuser into the villain and himself into the helpless victim. I'm not the bad guy, YOU are! That narrative, though it may be emotionally satisfying at first, leaves men in a pretty shitty place, powerless to impact their own futures and helpless to communicate in relationships if the women is upset with them. The reality is that we don’t live in a world of victims and villains. The women he’s calling insane are no more crazy than the men they hate are actually narcissists. Yes, MGTOW is right that the world is unfair, our legal systems are majorly flawed and many men are unjustly discriminated against in divorce cases. But giving into the "good vs. evil", "victim vs. villain" game doesn't solve those problems. It simply perpetuates the divide, the conflict and the us vs. them mentality that has infected our society on so many levels. More importantly, it sucks to be a victim, almost as much as it sucks to feel like a villain! Victims are weak, powerless to improve their own lives. They rely on others to change instead, a recipe for depression, despair and isolation. Do you really want to live that story line any more than you want to live the villain one? Jordan Peterson forgot that there is always a third option, and he made the all too human mistake of getting caught up in the illusion that real life is actually as black and white as a super hero flick. I hope you don't make the same mistake.
This is Why Divorce Recovery for Men is So Hard: Feeling Like A Broken Man After Divorce
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

This is Why Divorce Recovery for Men is So Hard: Feeling Like A Broken Man After Divorce

Divorce recovery for men is different in part because men are exposed to societal messaging that can often leave you like a broken man after divorce. Understanding the societal narratives that you’ve internalized throughout your lifetime is essential for effective divorce recovery for men. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- INTERESTED IN COACHING? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH ME 👉 https://calendly.com/rachaelsloan/str... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment. There are two general narratives that western society tells us about men. Both are myths, and both have impacts on divorce recovery for men. The first myth is that a good man is a strong, stoic provider who takes care of his family. He has his shit together, he is stable and grounded, emotionally intelligent and always there if you need him. This man would never fall apart, he is the rock that his wife and children can always count on. The second myth is that a sexy man is mysterious, confident, aggressive yet loving, passionate and takes charge, is vulnerable yet doesn’t get hurt by a woman’s criticism or anger… basically Dorian Gray from 50 Shades. These aren’t real men. These aren’t real PEOPLE. Yet most men think they should be this way... which is part of why you might feel like a broken man after divorce! Here’s the BIG problem with this societal messaging, and the one reason you may feel broken after your divorce: These stereotypes don’t allow for the one thing that is actually necessary to create the emotional safety and intimacy that makes relationships last - humanity. In order to be desired, you have to pretend you don’t care when you do, or that you really do care when you don’t. In order to be loved, you have to pretend you don’t ever feel scared, confused or weak. How can there be real intimacy, real emotional connection, if you’re not allowed to be honest about your thoughts and feelings? But understanding the impact of this societal messaging on your thoughts is essential for recovering from divorce and moving on with your life. My work is focused on divorce recovery for men. And most of the men I see feeling broken after their divorce believe one of two things: That they failed to be a “good enough” man. That women are insane and they’ll never be loved because women aren’t capable of love. The first group struggles with depression and self doubt that stops them from healing and moving forward. They are paralyzed by self doubt. The second group is so angry they can’t get past the injustices of their divorce. They are paralyzed by victimhood. In order to break free of paralysis and actually get your life back after divorce, you’ve got to conquer self doubt and victimhood. The first step to doing that is to become aware of where these ideas came from in the first place. To get over divorce and really recover, you’ve got to break the hold the messaging has on you, and start to get curious about yourself and relationships. What are they, without these myths? You can start with two simple journaling exercises to jumpstart your divorce recovery process: Without the societal narratives about what it means to be a man, who are you? What do you like? What’s important to you? What are your strengths? You weaknesses?
The Biology of Divorce Recovery for Men: Stop Feeling Like a Broken Man After Divorce
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

The Biology of Divorce Recovery for Men: Stop Feeling Like a Broken Man After Divorce

Divorce recovery for men is different than for women. If you feel like a broken man after divorce then you need to understand that there are distinct biological and societal factors that influence the way men experience divorce and the steps necessary for them to recover from it. If you’re feeling like a broken man after divorce, and especially if therapy or coaching hasn’t helped you achieve the results you want, that’s likely the reason. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- INTERESTED IN COACHING? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH ME 👉 https://calendly.com/rachaelsloan/str... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment. We have this whole societal story about how men just jump from woman to woman without a care in the world, or that they only value the comfort and ease of having a wife who takes care of the home. There’s this myth out there that men aren’t as committed to their relationships or their children as women. Yet that’s not what I see every day in my divorce recovery for men coaching practice. Instead I see men who are deeply attached to their families, and fiercely determined to give their children their best lives. They are often willing to sacrifice their own happiness and give up their own needs to do what they think is best for their kids, or to win back their wives. And many of them are feeling like a broken man after divorce because of it. I have a theory about how biology and evolutionary history impact divorce recovery for men. From an evolutionary biology perspective, it would make sense that men form strong partner bonds with one woman, and are willing to fight to protect her and their offspring so those children survive to adulthood. Naturally if he loses that women (ie through divorce) he may very well end up feeling like a broken man. Now, my biology theory would also suggest that men would have a drive to have sex with other women if the opportunity presented itself in relative safety. Evolutionary biology doesn’t have morals, it is about passing on genes. It may well have been a man’s best evolutionary bet to be strongly partnered to one woman to ensure the survival of her offspring, while having occasional flings on the side to maximize his genetic opportunity. This has impacts for divorce recovery for men as well. A lot of men I speak to carry immense amounts of shame around their sexual drives. They think it means that they are not good husbands, not good fathers or in some way "less than" as human beings. It’s my opinion that if we were willing to be honest about our own biology, and to talk candidly about the fears and desires that are rooted in our physiology and our evolutionary history, we’d be able to create a much more peaceful society with healthier relationships and far less crime or mental illness. The point is, that many men are powerfully attached to their families, even more so than women. That’s true even if they are attracted to or even have sex with other women. Ignoring this often makes divorce recovery for men a nightmare, and exacerbates them feeling broken after divorce. The result - men struggle to let go of the idea of their family unit more than women do, making divorce recovery for men harder than it is for women. But that’s not really taken into consideration by most therapists or coaches when they work with divorced men.
How You Can Support Me & This Channel
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Rachael Sloan - Relationship Coach

How You Can Support Me & This Channel

I've had a number of subscribers reach out and ask how they can contribute to this channel and support the work I'm doing here. I've been blown away by the feedback and show of support. I'm activating the JOIN button on my channel, so you can now become a supporting member by paying $4.99/month. It's a powerful way to support me in producing this content, and you also get to enjoy some perks! For members I'll release all my videos a few days in advance, so you always have first access. You'll also be added to my members only feed where I'll share behind the scenes clips, bonus videos and extra content. And best of all, you'll get to have a say in what I make next! I'll put out surveys and polls asking for your feedback and you can also directly suggest video topics. I can't tell you how grateful I am for your support already, through watching, commenting and sharing my content. Whether or not you become a supporting member, thank you for being here and for watching. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Stages of Divorce for Men (& How to Move Through Them to Heal) 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/564429e2c4 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- INTERESTED IN COACHING? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH ME 👉 https://calendly.com/rachaelsloan/str... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ARE YOU READY TO DATE AFTER YOUR DIVORCE? The Dating After Divorce Checklist helps you identify the specific areas you need to work on to actually ENJOY dating after divorce. 👉 https://adept-leader-7807.ck.page/a70288df40 --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men. I help my clients move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and in the aftermath of divorce to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same. DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.